Recently I had heard a comment made by my good friend that the elders above 70 years should die soon. I was so flabbergasted on hearing this that for a second, my brain just stopped, my heart cried out, “How could he?”
I do know where my friend is coming from, his problems at home, what he is going through in his day to day life. But to make a statement like that made me realize that problems make us cynical, we forget how to deal with them, in fact we do not want to deal with them at all totally. Problems at home made my friend so hard hearted that he could say that and not regret.
Who are we to say that the older generation should be wiped out, I agree they require a lot more support than before, but didn’t we require that when we were born? In fact it is the older generation which helped us to become all that we are today. And what is really old? why do we classify them as old? Agreed, that in the medical world, people and their diseases are classified according to age but why does society, we who form this society do that in day to day life? Every decade of living on this earth has its own challenges, why can’t we take this as a challenge?
We, the people of today are so busy with our studies, our work and our social life, both in the real and on the net that we have forgotten that our first social life has always started with our parents and grandparents and other elders. I neither consider myself as young nor old, I am just me with my own sense of right or wrong. And so are they whatever be their age.
I do understand that people of the generation gone past are a little judgemental. a little rigid. But who are we to say if they are right or wrong to be that way? We haven’t walked their life in their shoes. Understanding and patience works both ways, how many times we show that to our parents and elders. I, myself, am guilty of being impatient and abrupt with my parents and I do this in the excuse of work pressure. But haven’t our parents gone through the same pressure to bring us up whether they worked in office or at home. Yet our pressures become higher than theirs. I do know that my parents in fact any parent has walked through the coals of fire for their children. But we have to remember that they are humans too, they make mistakes too, sometimes costly ones.
When we make mistakes we expect our parents to forgive us, then why can’t we do the same for them? Why can’t we love them however they are and accept them fully with their problems and so called “wrong” views. We do that for our best friends , so why can’t our elders be our best friends?
Why can’t we drive our cars slow so that they can cross easily? Why don’t we help them, get them a cab or an auto when we see them in difficulty? Why can’t we help them cross the road? Why can’t we help them embrace the new technology, as and when it comes, at their own pace?
This post is so far away from my books but this one statement of my friend that people above 70 years should not live long, has squeezed my soul to the very core. I could not sleep the night. So many questions ran through my mind, have I also been guilty of showing that to my elders by my actions, by my impatience, and the answer was YES.
I got up with a determination in my heart to be a better human, to be a better soul. I want to be a better daughter to my elders and a better friend to everyone whatever be your age. In fact. I don’t want to know your age, I want to remove the barriers of age, I want to remove the judgements in my mind…
I want to be more humane than human. In one of the posts written by one of you was a post on success, I was wondering what is my idea of success. It is here that I realize that I want to be a success as a human being, a kinder human and a more patient human.
I want to be better than what I was yesterday and these are the stories that success should tell about me in the years to come…..
I want your views about yourself, search deep within you, there are no judgements here, no criticism about my friend’s views, just a deep realization of what we can do to better ourselves…. Your comments would help me to understand you and to improve me….