Am I a kind person??? Am I kind to the people who love me???
This question has been running through my mind for the last couple of weeks. And the answer is – No, not always
Why are we unkind to the people we profess to love???
When a person is unkind to me or calls me names which are untrue, I immediately know he/she is unkind. And I move away from such people. They bring too much negativity wherever they go.
After dealing with my hurt, I have realized that I too have been unkind to my family. I have taken them for granted, we always assume that people who love us will stand by us, and no apology seems good enough for my words. The only way I can redeem myself is through my actions and thinking before I say such words. There is a proverb think before you leap– and it’s true for speech too
It is so easy to be unkind and say hurtful words. We can also justify it by saying that we were just speaking the truth. But most people don’t take the time to think their words through, they are always in a hurry to justify their own actions.
I have always said words are powerful…
There are going to be people who say truth is the pathway to greatness. I believe that but words said, so that you can justify your own action without listening to the other person is not truth, it can never be the truth. It is known as judgement. It is said there is his side, there is her side and there is the truth.
Words have 2 pathways: what we speak and how it lands in the opposite person’s listening. We can justify our words as truth, but if it lands on our loved ones as hurting words and makes them cry – what is the use of such words??? Every word we speak to our loved ones can be said in a kind manner, without belittling them or losing track of the truth. Believing one’s words to be the holy truth and humiliating the other person’s dignity is not raising oneself truly. We can only raise ourselves by our kind and dignified actions not by hurt. I believe in karma.
Henceforth, I am going to be kind to my family and loved ones at all times, even when things in my life are topsy-turvy. It is better not to speak than to speak cruel, hurtful words in the name of truth.
Kindness is important, and kindness begets kindness. If we are not kind, why and how can we expect the world to be kind to us???