I was asked today, shouldn’t my age and my marital status generate respect? Shouldn’t a human younger to me call me Ms. Shalini or madam? By calling me ma‘am or Shalini ji, does that generate respect? Does that indicate respect?
Would calling me Shalini at my behest without a prefix or postfix show that I am asking to be disrespected?? Do you need to call a person your brother or sister or aunty or uncle, to show respect?? Does respect need all these artificial crutches to stand??
Can’t respect be a word which stands alone, with dignity and grace? Is it so difficult to respect people?? Doesn’t a newborn child deserve respect??
What is respect? Why does it have so many definitions but in reality, all those definitions are almost never applied. If every woman of a certain age are only supposed to be called respectfully, what happens to the young girls? Shouldn’t they also be called Ma’am? After all in this blogging world, we do not know everybody.
Shouldn’t every human being on this planet deserve the same respect? I stand corrected, I mean every good human being deserve the same respect?? Why do people have these strange versions of respect??
I have seen this very commonly amongst Indian men, they call me Shalini ji and then go on to make an unwanted pass. How does the postfix Ji then help me? Didn’t the man just say he respected me, by calling my name so respectfully? Why didn’t the Ji then protect my honour and dignity?
I am not saying it is a wrong way to address people; I have nothing against calling someone with respect, I do it too. There are many in this blogging world, I do address as Sir or Ma’am, till they tell me to call them by their first names. But my words are followed by actions too. I do not insult their dignity by my actions, I do nothing which hurts them or makes them feel that way, whatever be their age.
Empty words have no meaning and just because we have been taught to use them, does not make it right. It probably makes us ‘good mannered’ – though I am not convinced about that. Empty words, which are not followed by action, have no meaning. Calling a woman by their name just says that you are calling them by their identity and you respect their identity. Respect should be for everyone.
I have always reiterated that words are important, they make or break us. Today I add, that there has to be the strength of conviction to back up those words. There has to be a commitment to those words.
I have no problems of being called Shalini ji or ma’am or doc, but don’t call me that just because of my age or status. Call every woman respectfully, irrespective of any category, because every woman deserves that respect and so does every man, every living creature, in fact.
In saying this, I do believe there are bad people in this world, some in real, some hiding behind the anonymity of internet. I don’t think such people deserve respect. Predators of all kinds deserve no respect whatsoever.
These are my views, and I abide by them. They do not reflect the society or the blogging world. They are purely mine, my beliefs, my convictions.
Every good living thing deserves respect. It is not an empty word, it has great meaning, respect is based on actions, not age, marital status, work designation or any such category. Respect is being humane.